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The Dos and Don’ts of Writing Critiques

Following the A to Z blogging challenge, I’m back to my usual fortnightly writing schedule on this blog, but do feel free to check out Flight of the Dragon where I post 2-3 times a week. 

This was originally going to be my ‘E’ post for A to Z until I wrote some fiction and posted that instead. I have a few of these lying around.

In my opinion, there are rules of etiquette governing both the giving and receiving of critiques. So here’s my take on it. 

Asking for critiques:
  • Be aware you are asking a favour; you are taking up the time of someone who could probably be using that time to write their own stuff;
  •  Offer to critique in return. People are more likely to help you if they know you’ll help back when they need it. In a perfect world, this wouldn’t be necessary, but none of have unlimited time, and most writers have a day job too!
  • Above all, be grateful. I don’t care if your work comes back covered in red scribbles, this person has given their time to you, probably more time than it took you to write it, because explaining what’s wrong with a line or a scene takes far more time than spinning it out.
  • Don’t argue with your critique partner. You don’t have to agree with them, but take their advice away, think about it, and if you still don’t agree, just don’t use it. It’s unnecessary to start a flame war over differences of opinion. Definitely don’t start abusing them. Story-telling is a subjective matter, and not everyone has the same opinion. But at least consider their advice – you’re so close to your baby it’s entirely possible you can’t see what’s wrong with your own work (see ‘What I Learned From Rejection… and A Fortuitous Workshop’). If you don’t understand something, by all means ask – nicely!
Giving Critiques
  • Be honest – your critique has no value if you don’t point out problems or if you just stroke the writer’s ego. In fact, you are probably setting that writer up for disappointment when they discover the truth – and ultimately they will. I recently came across a writer who gave me a story he had paid someone to edit and which was to be published in some magazine. Now I think his money was wasted on that editor and I don’t know what the magazine was because that story was littered with POV issues, characterisation issues, lack of conflict, lack of tension, shifting tenses… the list goes on. Perhaps that editor only did a copy edit, but they did this writer no favours!
  • Be honest – but don’t be cruel. You should be straightforward, and time constraints likely mean you aren’t going to sugar-coat it (and heaven knows I am painfully blunt, a technique I sadly learned from my first critique partner), but don’t be mean or spiteful.
  • If the writer got something right, tell them. Getting feedback about all the negative things can be dispiriting, so it can help to know the story isn’t a total waste of paper! This doesn’t mean stroke their ego, it just means give positive encouragement at the same time as setting their manuscript on fire.
  • If you commit to doing the critique within a certain timeframe, make sure you meet that deadline or give the writer a heads-up if you can’t.
As always, these are mostly common sense tips, but not always followed. Though I’ve been fortunate in my choice of people to do critiques for, and the writers have always been most grateful, I know people who have been less fortunate, including writers who have flamed their critique partners and cut them off entirely. 
 
Be polite. Don’t be, not to put too fine a point on it, a dick.


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Relentless Butt Plugs and Twitter Etiquette


…or was that book plugs? That probably depends on whether you write erotica or not!

I’m guest posting over at Find A Good Book to Read by Wodke Hawkinson today on the topic of Twitter etiquette and other Twitter peeves. Those of you who have been with me for a while now know I did a post on this in the very early days of this blog (which you can revisit here), but as a special favour to Wodke Hawkinson, in need of an anonymous gun-for-hire for a good rant, I am doing a reprise… or a revise. I just skipped the anonymous part. Anonymity? I spit on anonymity! Don’t worry, if I’m going to say you piss me off, I’ll do it to your face!

I have touched again on some of the points I raised in the earlier post and, in addition, I’ve informally polled some Tweeps to see what their pet peeves are and discussed those as well. It seem like relentless book plugs are everyone’s number one pet peeve… although if you write erotica, you might misread that as relentless butt plugs, as did one of my Tweeps. Really, ladies and gentlemen, minds out of the gutter for a few minutes, please. 

Although for myself, relentless butt plugs might be even more unpleasant than relentless book plugs!

In further news, after my last post, on whether I should do the A-Z Blogging Challenge, I have decided that I will. Thanks to everyone who commented and offered ideas. I usually post fortnightly on this blog, but in preparation for the Challenge there will be no post in a fortnight’s time. You can look forward to the near-daily blogging fun of the Challenge in April instead. 

I have topics for nearly every letter now except J, K and Z. If you have a topic for any of these letters, let me know in the comments. And please… be kind! 

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